Why, if wanting to be in honest relationships do women prefer being lied-to?
Browsing the Internet, doing research about what women perceive are shortcomings of men, I came upon a surprising revelation. Apparently, and besides the fact that women hate being lied-to, what they hate the most is being poorly lied-to. And as much as I can relate to the fact that dishonesty is something worth hating, I can’t wrap my mind around the difference between being lied-to and poorly being lied-to.
I mean a lie is a lie, right? No, apparently not. If women make a difference between being lied and being poorly lied-to, one can only conclude that they too feel that if a lie is well delivered and believable and passes as a truth, then it’s fine. On the other hand if a lie that is in fact delivered as unbelievable and passes as a lie, it’s not.
All of which got me thinking about the subject. And I realized that there are two kinds of lies that men tell women; those said as to seduce and those said as to not be abandoned for another liar. Also, that women like to be lied-to just as long as it’s done to feed their own fantasies.
And so when it comes to seducing a woman, men set out themselves to be the men they are not. And the logic behind this is simple; most men are by any standard, regular guys. And women don’t like regular guys. Seriously, few men are up to the high standards that women set for themselves when it comes to picking a partner.
In the absence of extraordinary men, what women really want is for men to be the men they are not. What to do then? Nothing else that to blatantly lie; it’s so effective that a friend instead of asking me if I’m dating someone, he’ll always say “who are you lying to now?” Not that I’m a liar, nor that I’ve never lied as to seduce a woman, its just that it is more effective; he knows it.
Which takes me to the second kind of lies men tell women; or those said as not to be abandoned for another liar. And the logic behind these is too simple; most men are by any standard, regular guys. And women don’t like regular guys. Seriously, few men are up to the high standards that women set for themselves when it comes to sticking with a partner.
When women want to get into a relationship they want to keep on believing that they are with that someone who they’ve already made-up to be. Unfortunately though, most are neither the men they make themselves to be when seducing a woman; less so the men that women want them to be. What to do then? Nothing else that to blatantly lie; it’s so effective that most women are with men who have lied to them. Not that I’m a liar, nor that I’ve never lied as to keep a woman I’ve already seduced, it’s just that it is more effective; everybody knows it.
Thing is that lying seems not only about the intent of the liar but about that of who is lied-to as well. Or at least that’s what I recon from the fact that women draw distinctions between being lied-to and being poorly lied-to. I mean really, what’s up with women (and liars)?
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